(Spring setting, courtesy of HGTV)Have you ever been to a big sit-down party or a wedding and didn't know where to sit? Mass confusion erupts! Last year I hosted an 18-person holiday dinner - which is really not that big a party - and no one knew where to sit. Suddenly, it looked like a frantic merry-go-round scene or a game of musical chairs. I vowed not this year! I discovered place card holders!
Okay, everyone knows about them but I always thought they were meant for really large parties - like weddings or big formal dinners where no one knows each other. I really didn’t believe they were needed for smaller family and friend parties. But you can probably picture it when my guests approached the dinner table: the new guests attending for the first time looked like lost lambs. Small family tensions start bubbling up - no one wanted to get stuck next to non-stop chatterbox Aunt Sally or deaf as a post Uncle Eddie. Understandably, everyone wants to sit next to at least one good table companion.
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The best way to alleviate the confusion is to marshal the guests like a general and just position them with place cards. As host or hostess, you know the guests best and it’s their comfort that you are ensuring. I always think it’s best to start with the most outgoing, sociable people and spread them apart so the lively conversations can be distributed evenly. I then position Shy Sam or Quiet Christy near them so they can be drawn out to join the conversations.
It also helps to start the conversation flowing with a wonderfully decorated table and fun place card holders. It takes away a little bit of the pain of table positioning. Above is a whimsical but elegant elephant card holder. Below was my holiday place card holder - a snowflake card holder to complement my blue and white snowflake table theme.
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If you're planning a garden party or a little afternoon tea party - these colorful purse card holders will brighten your table decor. If a wine and cheese party is more your style - the wine cork card holders is another inventive way to position your guests.
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Another idea is to reposition your guests for the dessert course. This will force new table companions and relieve them of any long-winded guests. You can reuse the place cards – just add the second name on the back of the card. This may even start new friendships!